If you are divorced, emotionally and mentally drained because of the messy proceedings, then cheer up. Remember, a full stop is not the end of a sentence; it can also be the start of a new one. Yes, you can have a life after divorce. The main problem that people face after a divorce is the unpleasant baggage that comes with it. Despair, broken hopes, and memories, guilt, and rage envelop a person such that, he or she is not optimistic in starting a new relationship. Also, the person starts filling his/her life with questions, that have no answers. Why commit the same mistake twice? You ask yourself. The answer is – because this is life. Happiness comes from trial and error, and a happy person is not the one who never made a mistake (if there is such a person!), but the one who made mistakes but went ahead. So, open the door and start dating. Who knows a perfect match may be right in the corner. Here are a few tips to help you go dating after divorce.
How To Start Dating Again After Divorce
- Go out, move around, interact, and don’t hide in a hole. It doesn’t matter what people say. Ultimately it’s your life, so do what you think is right.
- Overcome your ‘fear of rejection’. You have ‘nothing to lose but everything to gain’ so put your best foot forward. Many a time, the fear of being rejected, because one may think it was years before they dated, may bog them down and numb their will, to break free. So, it is always advisable to mingle as many a time as they can.
- Have fun and relax. Spend more time in understanding your date and don’t let your negative experience influence or come between you.
- Bury your past and maintain a positive outlook. Don’t try to gain the sympathy of the other person by unnecessarily detailing your previous life. Try to convey your strength and confidence even after what you have been through.
- Don’t scare your probable date away by making him/her realize that you are looking for husband/wife or a father/mother for your children. Convey the impression that you genuinely enjoy the company of other person.
- Above all, be honest or try to be as honest as possible. Be yourself, so that you find the person who is interested in you as you are. Most of the times, relationships end because you love the person not as who he or she is, but what you imagine him/her to be. In addition, one day you wake up to find that you had married the alter ego of the person you thought you loved. Result – divorce.
- Always have an escape strategy. Some people may try to gain your confidence, by showering sympathies on you. Beware of such people.
- Don’t overdo yourself, and try to have a fling with each and every person you find in the hope of starting a relationship. More often than not, you will drive away persons looking for serious commitment in addition to embarrassing yourselves.
- Employ your divorce lawyer as a date consultant. He knows you inside out.