Questions To Ask Before You Get Married

The easier it seems to get married, the more difficult it is to retain and sustain. Most couples can’t wait to tie the nuptial knots soon after they get engaged. While getting engaged is fine, do not make the mistake of wrapping yourself in marriage too soon. Though you may think that you and your fiancé have talked about everything, there certainly are some questions that you surely must have not discussed on. In order to make your marriage a successful affair and reduce chances of divorce, it is significant that both of you sit down and talk about some serious issues before you say “I do”. This will enhance communication between you two and plus, will help you reaffirm your decision of getting married to the right person and at the right time. Here is a list of questions to ask yourself and your partner before you get married. Take a look!

Questions To Ask Before Marriage

Career

Are we both professionally established?
Can we afford changes in income, and will it mesh with our life goals as a married couple?
What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?
How will we manage debts and savings?
Will we keep our money in joint or individual accounts?
Will one of us give up our career to stay home with our child/children?

Home

How important is it for you to have a space in your home that is yours alone?
Who cleans the bathroom, does the laundry, vacuums, and maintains the lawn/garden?
What will your division of labor look like, especially when you have kids?
Can you handle another person – even one you love – in "your space"?
Who will pay the bills and other expenses?
Are you willing to share household chores? What would you prefer doing?

Physical Intimacy

Do either of you have a STD, and are you taking measures to prevent it from spreading?
How often do we each expect to have sex?
What if one of us doesn't want to have sex, how will we deal with that?
Does your weight or appearance affect your ability to be intimate – and can you be honest about that?
Can you comfortably discuss your intimate body parts and functions?
What sexual activities do you enjoy the most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable? Be specific!

Children

Do you want to have children? How many?
How long do you want to wait before having children?
Would you feel unfulfilled if you were unable to have children?
Who is responsible for birth control? What would you do if there were an accidental pregnancy before you planned to have children?
Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?
What is your view of abortion? Should a husband have an equal say in whether his wife has an abortion?

Leisure

How often will we go on vacations?
What would you want to do on a day off? What activities do you enjoy?
How much money do you regularly spend on leisure activities?
Will you indulge in activities that might make your partner uncomfortable, such as hanging out in bars drinking, going to strip clubs, or gambling?
Do you look forward to at least one night out every week, or do you prefer to enjoy yourself at home?
How often do you like to go out with your friends, alone?

Family

Are you close to your family?
How much time will we spend with our in-laws and other relatives?
What do you like, or dislike about my family?
How much influence do your parents still have over your decisions?
How important is it that you and your partner are on good terms with each other’s families?
Will unresolved or ongoing family issues ever be a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

That’s all folks! Think over and answer these premarital questions before you take that major leap towards getting married.

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