Pre Marriage Counseling Questions

When you made up your mind to spend the rest of your life with her, it was the farthest thing in your mind. When you popped the question, you couldn’t have imagined it any more than her. But now, after months of marriage, you suddenly find the steam tapering off. So how do you explain this dwindling chemistry? Well, there have been countless testimonials explicating how a good marriage can go down the drains. Right from incompatibility to daily bickering to money can take the sting out of any marriage, leaving you feeling that walking down the aisle was definitely a bad idea. Thankfully, there are couple therapies to bail you out of one such bad situation and save your marriage from hitting the dumps. With even the hottest couples losing their spark overtime, the need to damage-proof a relationship has become more intense than ever before. Here steps in the need for pre-marriage counseling. Discussing money, intimacy, career and kids even before you say “I do” can save you a whole lot of heart-break and bank-break later. Run down these pre marriage-counseling questions and cement your bond for one last time before you exchange your vows.

Premarital Counseling Questions

Are you both more into spending or saving?
Are you comfortable spending money on the same things like dates or vacations or even organic food?
Will you have joint or separate accounts?
Who will pay the bills?
Do each of you has a financial plan?
Are you under any kind of loan?
Have you taken medical insurance?
Have you invested in any savings and investment plans?
Do you have any retirement plans?
Have you made a will?
If any of you dies, how will you divide your finances?
If there is any misunderstanding between you two, how will you settle it?
Do you feel that your partner does not understand you, especially when you have had an argument?
Whenever you have a conflict, are you able to resolve it?
Does your partner make you happy? How does he or she manage to do that?
Are there any habits or traits of your partner which you dislike most?
Is there anything about your partner that turns you off?
Are you and your partner, able to talk about sex comfortably?
Do you think that your partner satisfies you sexually?
How will the housework be divided between you two after marriage?
Who will make the family budget?
Who cleans the bathroom, does the laundry, vacuums, and maintains the lawn/garden?
Who cooks the meals and does the dishes?
Who buys the groceries and maintains the car?
How much of friends and family are important to you?
Do you want to have children?
How much of your time, daily, will you give to your children?
Where will you live post retirement?
Do you think that your plans and goals will be made by giving priority to your family first?
Do you have retirement goals?
Do either of you have a STD, and are you taking measures to prevent it from spreading?
Does your weight or appearance affect your ability to be intimate – and can you be honest about that?
Have you talked about the preferred time of day for intimacy, number of times per week (or day), place, lights on or off, length of contact, foreplay, or how adventurous you want to be?
What will your division of labor look like, especially if you have kids?
Do you have any pet peeves?
Can you handle another person – even one you love – in "your space"?
What about infertility, unplanned pregnancies, or fostering or adopting?
Are we both professionally established?
Should you both work full-time?
Can you afford changes in income, and does it mesh with our life goals as a married couple?
Are you grumpy or emotionally unavailable because you bring your work home – or work from home?
Is your health affected by job stress?

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