Controlling Relationships

What is true love? A million dollar question with a million different answers, but none that justly explains what true love exactly is. Getting into a relationship can be one of the most wonderful aspects of life, provided the relationship is good and healthy. All hell would break loose if the relationship turns out to be a controlling one. Of all the hazardous maladies that we can evade, a controlling relationship, undoubtedly, ranks on top. Remember, there is no good reason to endure such an unhealthy liaison! At first, everything might seem rosy and akin to your most favorite fairytale. However, as the relationship reaches the latter stages, it would get more and more complicated. Note that when the partners arrive at a certain level of familiarity, the relationship is often prone to turning into a controlling one. Extreme insecurity is the key catalyst in this endemic scenario. The controlling partner isn’t necessarily evil, but incorrectly manifests his/her affection. Fear of losing the partner justifies his/her juvenile behavior. Keep in mind that unbreakable trust is the key for steering clear of a controlling relationship. But for that, you need to first identify whether or not your relationship is a controlling one? There are subtle hints and signs that gradually build up and get ugly. Browse through the rest of this article to encounter a few relevant signs of a controlling relationship.

 

 

You know for sure that your partner is controlling when you find a tracking device in your bag or pocket. He or she wants to know your every move, your every step. Your partner might insist that you share your email id password or cell phone security code! Know for sure that it is an inexcusable invasion of privacy that shouldn’t be tolerated in any relationship, no matter how strong the commitment may be! Don’t sacrifice your right to privacy. Some e-mails and text messages are personal! Moreover, you have the right to go wherever you wish to and meet whoever you want to. Your partner can show concern, but by no means can he or she stop you.

 

He/she might want you all to himself/herself and hence, isolate you! By imposing absurd restrictions, your partner might try to prevent you from meeting friends, family and colleagues. He/she can’t bear the mere thought of you giving attention to another being! Though you might think him/her to be possessive initially, don't be illusioned, as this type of a controlling behavior can reach psychotic and schizophrenic extremes at later stages! At times, such partners have a tendency of venting out all their frustrations and insecurities on the other person to the extent of violence. He/she may twist your arms, pinch you, launch red hot slaps and even kick you!

 

Trouble is on the cards when your partner falls into your arms, without even knowing your second name and professes his/her undying love for you! It is these kinds of weak characters that are prone to accelerating a controlling relationship. The controlling partner devours the opportunity to be in control and often unintentionally makes your life a living hell. Such partners can be often seen throwing unexpected phrases like “We should get married” or “You belong to me and only me!”

 

Does your partner throw tantrums every second day? Does his/her sudden spell of pleasant ecstasy vanish in no time and change to raging fury or melancholy just like the flickering hues of a chameleon? Destructive behavior and frightful threats indicate the beginning of a highly unhealthy controlling relationship. Such people snap for no valid reason and are horrifying if you fail to comply with their requests. Sooner or later, the controlling partner exploits you to suit his/her own personal needs and indulge in sweet talks only when he/she expects a favor from you.