Of all the low dilemmas we attempt to escape and often fail to, ‘abusive behaviour’ stands as one of the prominent ones we all meet head-on at least once in our lives. When was the last time you were subject to harsh profanities on the road, or the last time you dodged a slap? Scenarios predominated by bouts of abusive conduct always end badly. Sometimes, abusive incidents leave behind scars that linger on for years, if not undyingly.
It might be impossible to purge every trace of abuse, but it is certainly possible to tone down its provocation. Several behavioural traits indicate probabilities of abusive outbursts. Clear symptoms aid us to foresee ugly incidences of aggressiveness, hostility and at the worst, brute force. These diverse symptoms provide us with substantial time to either alleviate the grave situation or maintain distance from it. The abuser instinctively justifies its irrational behaviour and emotionally blackmails the concerned victim. These aggressive and defensive traits signify the nearing approach of abusive behaviour. Scroll down and update yourself on some warning signals related to abusive behaviour portrayed by individuals.
Signs Of Abusive Behaviour
Do you feel robbed of the liberty to make your own decisions? Is a certain somebody the architect of your life, dictating every step and curve to be taken? Petty factors like arriving home late or overspending fuel their suppressed rage. The clandestine motives behind such controlling behaviour are generally enveloped around the cover up of a loving being who worries for your safety and well-being.
Fantasies and insecurities consume them to such an extent, that they tend to assume the role of your possessor! Any relationship, especially the romantic kinds which is defined by extreme possessiveness is built on a very rocky foundation. Nobody deserves to be on a leash and more importantly, nobody has the right to “own” another human being. Possessiveness daunts the victim away, which usually sparks an act of intolerable abuse.
Never leave a cherished object in the hands of who might be an abusive person. Frequent punching of fists on furniture and walls are evident hints of brutal tendencies. Destroying a sacred object of yours to the point of no return provides cruel relief to the abuser. These acts are predictably justified with accusations thrown upon the victim like – “She hurt my feelings, what could I do?” or “I saw him wink at that woman, he deserved to end up with a broken cellphone!”
The Blame Game Player
Are you familiar with instances wherein a student fails but blames the teacher, or an employee gets fired and blames the boss? These are embryonic signs of a troubled being who never takes accountability and resorts to abusive behaviour when things fall apart. The blame game like any other game has a loser, and the loser is conclusively the blamer. Due to the disability to own up to their mistakes, frustration piles up and they choose to vent through verbal or physical abuse.
The Minority Crusher
Ever witnessed an innocuous stray dog being kicked for absolutely no good reason? Or a fragile school boy getting ragged or god forbid, flogged by his bulkier classmates just for being the weaker link? Commonly identified as “bullies” and “rogues”, these abusers seek power and status to appear as intimidating. Such people blow off steam and radiate their anger by harming whom they label as their “inferiors”.
The Forceful Sex Addict
Converse to sado-masochism, the abuser seeks pleasure from inflicting pain upon his partner during intercourse. The notion of “rape” appeals to them as exciting and they turn a blind eye to the partner’s suffering. Demanding sex whilst sleeping and demanding it at odd hours all dribbles down to the hostile characteristics of an abuser.
Whether cocaine, vodka or heroin, an excess of anything is harmful! A drunkard often blames the liquor for the misdeeds that follow. The addiction escalates, primarily during a bad phase and does more bad than good. Withdrawal symptoms give rise to hysterical behaviour while too much of alcohol and drugs induces violence and abusive behaviour.