You might have been in a relationship for years or just days. However, when a breakup happens, the pain and shock is severe irrespective of the duration of the relationship. Of course, you will feel horrible. And there will be times, when you might feel your brain going numb, and all those old sentimental songs about lost love, seem to match your feelings completely. Every ounce of logic goes out of your head, and you feel incapable of thinking rationally. While certain impulses that you might feel after a breakup, are healthy and should be responded to, there are others that will not help you in the long run. Therefore, if you find it difficult to think of what you need to do to get over the break-up, the following list of do's and don’ts will help.
The Do's And Don'ts After A Breakup
- Taking a holiday out of town could be just the thing you need to make you feel better. Take a trip to a place you have always wanted to visit. It doesn’t have to be a comfortable trip – it could even be a rough one in the woods. Your new surroundings will stimulate you, and will ease your pain.
- After a break-up, you might feel like there is loads of time to fill up, and you have no real aim in life. This is the perfect opportunity that you can grab to take up a challenge. Try something creative like a new art course. If you feel a whole lot of pent-up energy within you, you can go in for some physical training course. You can also feel better by volunteering at an animal center.
- Throw away anything that might remind you of your ex. Reminders will always bring back memories that will hurt. Delete his/ her e-mails, messages or absolutely anything that would trigger pain.
- Get in touch with friends whom you might have not contacted for a long time. This will help you have some quality bonding, and can distract you during a rough time.
- Enjoy being single. Being single has its own advantages, although you may not be able to see it right now. However, you can throw an “I’m Single” party and declare your newly available status. After all, if it wasn’t meant to be, then you are better off being free.
- Never make drastic changes to your appearance. While getting a makeover done is not wrong, don’t change yourself completely.
- While taking a holiday is fine, don’t move to a new place permanently. You need your friends and the comfort that they can give you after a break-up.
- While a little chocolate cake, ice cream and a few drinks are fine, avoid overdoing it. If you give in, to habits completely (such as smoking or drinking), you will only feel worse each day.
- While it’s good to be a nice person, it is not good for you to continue to remain friends with your ex. A clean break is good in the case of a break-up.
- Don’t obsess about your ex for weeks on end. It is good to talk about him/ her to get the pain out of your system. However, confining your thoughts on just your ex will make it harder to get over the break-up. And, of course, you will end up alienating your friends.