Even if theorists tend to bluff the idea, the fact remains that midlife crisis, even if it is psychosomatic, is here to stay. Here’s how to help your partner get over midlife crisis.
Join The Party!
If you humour your spouse for his/her childish behavior, by joining in his/her juvenile escapades, you may be more successful in keeping him/her grounded. It might do you good to understand that your spouse may be worried about the loss of youth, and all the positivity that is attached to youth. Or he/she may be afraid of the fact that your children have grown up and may not need him/her as much as they did. If she/he takes up a new hobby, support it and join in too.
If you consistently emphasise on the positives of your spouse trying his/her hand at youth again, you may end up making him/her feel validated, which is essentially what they are looking for. You may gawk at the idea of there being anything positive about midlife crisis, but you could emphasise that he/she now shows an increased level of energy, and how he/she is high on life again. Discouragement of such behavior will, on the other hand, make him/her feel invalidated and will push him/her to look for others who feel that way, like a particular group of friends.
This phase of your partner’s life could be difficult in the sense that they tend to take things that they would otherwise brush aside, very seriously, sometimes madly so. You may have paid very little attention to their appearance all this while, since work, career, and family were highest on the priority list. Now that they do not have to worry about all that, the other things gain importance – the loss of youth, the uncertainty of old age, the fear of losing the love of their children. It might pay, however, if they took the eventuality of growing old less seriously and gave it a lighter twist. Arrange for him/her to be in the company of people who take such things less seriously and who can easily leave both of you in splits.
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