What is more precious than a relationship that adds warmth and strength to your life? Who wants a relationship where two people are constantly bickering about one thing or the other? A relationship without comfortability and compatibility is soul-less and does not really have much mileage. Compatibility does not only mean that you get along with your partner and feel sexually attracted to him; it means that the core foundation of the relationship is based on congenial factors and even the differences in the personality are actually in harmony. Come to think of it, after the initial attraction and sexual interest wears off, which always does, what do you think your relationship could continue to base on? Love and relationships are two very different things, although love leads to a relationship but love is unconditional and it is fundamentally an intangible feeling. Relationship, on the other hand, is earthy and needs a lot of hard work; you cannot be unconditional in a relationship, no matter how hard you try. Expectations play a huge role in a relationship; it is an unsaid promise of equal give and take between two people. The problem is, when the delicate balance between this ‘give and take’ is off balanced, confliction starts in a relationship. This balance is only restored when both the people in a relationship understand each other; both the people are tolerant to each other’s faults. This is a natural instinct in a relationship; you cannot bring the understanding factor from the outside into the relationship. Although, you can practice tolerance towards the differences between you and your partner but, you cannot pull it off for a long time if there is not an element of natural compatibility already. If your relationship does not have friendship like affinity, then there is a good possibility that your relation would eventually go through a series of misunderstandings and anguish of mood swings. It can also lead to a potential break up if none of you would be ready to see it for what it is and compromise. Emotional compatibility, compatibility of ideas, common principles, congeniality of lifestyles and genialness of life choices are very important factors that decide the future and potential of a relationship. You can check where you and your partner stand when it comes to relationship compatibility by the means of a few methodical compatibility questions. Here in this article we have jotted down few of such questions for you.
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Do you use words of endearment with each other still, as much as you used it when you first started seeing each other?
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How far would you go to make your partner feel happy and content?
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If your partner is not happy with your career, would you give it up for him/her?
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Do you like when people other than yours boyfriend/girlfriend flirt with you?
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Does your partner speak with his/her ex a lot? How does it make you feel?
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Do you think it is okay to stay apart for days from each other, for the sake of personal space?
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How important is fidelity for you in a relationship?
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Do you think your partner is scared of losing you?
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Are birthdays, anniversaries and special days important for you?
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How much is expressing your love in words is important to you?
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For how long can you and your partner stay mad at each other?
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Do you feel like you are the one who always makes a compromise in the relationship?
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Does your partner talk about your future together as much as you do?
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Do you take interest in your partner’s interests?
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Do you find your partner sexually attractive?
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Do you enjoy your space a lot or you are more than happy to include your partner in it?
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Where do you see your relationship in the next ten years?
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Do you both have similar interests in books, music and movies?
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Is there a passion that you and your partner share together?
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Has anybody ever been envious of your relationship?
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Do you both touch each other constantly?
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How do you and your partner behave when you are surrounded by other people?
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Do you and your partner generally fight over silly issues or really big fundamental issues?
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Do you like each other’s friends?
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Do you take interest in each other’s careers?
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How well do you and your partner manage the finances together?
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Do you both get each other gifts often?
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Do you both like to spend time with each other’s families?
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Do you both like sex the same way or there are things that you wish your partner did differently?
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Do you both take vacations together often?
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Do you both surprise each other by doing something nice and thoughtful once in a while?
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Do you both hold hands in public?
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Do you and your partner share the same sort of sense of humor?
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When you get annoyed, what is that one thing you partner does that never fails to bring a smile on your face?
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What is your definition of long-term relationship?
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When there is an argument between you and your partner, how do you react? Who is the first one to calm down?
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How do you deal with the gradual decrease of the sexual passion between you two?
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What is that one thing that keeps your relationship going, despite the hurdles and problems?
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What would you do to spur up the romance between you and your partner?
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How would you like to spend your weekend – stay at home with your love or go out to a restaurant or beach with your partner?
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What three things you would wish for, if you are left all alone in a deserted island?
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What is the quality that you admire the most in your partner?
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What is the negative quality in your partner that has always made you feel angry on him/her?
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How far do you think your partner fills your life?
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Which is more of a priority to you - your career or your family life?
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Do you have a joint account with your partner or prefer to maintain separate accounts?
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Do you and your partner share any common interest?
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How to be sure that your partner really loves you the same way as he used to do during your early stage of marriage?
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Supposing you are given an entire week to spend with your partner alone, doing no other work, what would you do?
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Would you go for an outing with your gang of friends, even if your partner does not like it?
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What would you do to preserve the most precious moments of your love-making?