All of us must have sometime somewhere come across a total brat screaming and ranting at his parents to get his wishes fulfilled. Such ill behavior in children is found to be more frequent these days as compared to the past and can be associated with many reasons. The foremost reason being the parents in general spending lesser time with their children due to work and other reasons. Due to this, whatever little time they get to spend with their kids is spent pampering them with all their demands and thus, spoiling them in the process.
The outcome many a times is that that the kids are unable to take a ‘no’ and resort to bad behavior to get their wants fulfilled. Despite all bottlenecks, it is still important that one puts on hold or even curtails the demands of kids at times. Not only will this help in disciplining them, but also teach them to appreciate the affection and goods they are unquestionably showered with. As such, here are some positive ways in which you can say ‘no’ to your child’s demands in this article. So read on.
Tips on How to Say No to Your Child’s Demands Positively
Learn to Strike a Balance
If you submit to all of your child’s demands with a ‘yes’, then there is a chance that he / she will begin to take your favors for granted. On the other hand, if you say a direct ‘no’ to everything the child asks for, then this is bound to make him / her feel unhappy and depressed. As such as a parent, it is important for you to strike a right balance between the yeses and nos. Being a mature person, it is you who has to decide which demands of your child are fair and which excessive.
Variations in the ‘No’ over Time
There are different ways in which you are supposed to say ‘no’ to your child’s demands as he / she grows up. During the first year, a baby’s needs and wants are same. So that makes you mainly a ‘yes’ parent. During second year, your toddler’s demands may not always be a safe one. So depending upon the demand, you have to frequently alternate between yes and no. It is only when a child is above two years old that he /she begin to learn to throw tantrums. You will have to use creative alternatives for the high energy ‘no’ at this time.
Think of Alternatives to "No"
It is common for parents to find their kids increasingly irritating at times. The child will be really unmanageable to an extent that the parent finally gets exasperated saying no to all silly demands. This could be like wanting to play only with a particular type of toy, making too much noise, creating a mess, etc. In such situations, parents should think of an alternative to saying no. Maybe both could head off to the neighborhood park where the child can play and you talk with other parents there.
Master that Look
It is really not needed to scream a loud ‘no’ every time your child demands something unreasonable. A lot of times, just a look of the face is enough to send across the message that the child’s demands cannot be entertained and that there is no need of a tantrum / fuss. But this look is something that you will master with time. With small kids generally, one needs to be more patient.
Get that Tenor in your Voice
Apart from mastering ‘the look’, also take on that particular tone of voice for all those times when you want your kid to understand that his / her demand will not be entertained. You must have surely noticed how some mums futilely keep scolding their child for a certain thing. At the same time, there are moms and dads whose firm ‘no’ once is enough to let the child know that he /she has crossed the line.
Keep a ‘Yes’ Day
Observing a ‘Yes’ day once in a while also helps a lot in taming unruly behavior in child. Kids are also known to raise unnecessary tantrums demanding things just to get the attention of their busy parents. So keep a ‘Yes’ day, when you will agree to most demands of your child and shower him /her with full attention. This way, your kid will feel loved and cared for. In the end, it will also curb his / her tendency to resort to bad behavior to just get your attention.