How To Deal With Grief

Just like every coin has two sides, so does love and affection. This other side is what is seen when we lose someone we valued a lot, an emotion most of us have already experienced. When we lose someone close to us, we feel a variety of things ranging from denial, anger, bargaining to depression and finally acceptance. All these emotions are a part of grief and can be experienced not only when we lose someone dear to us but also when we lose something dear to us. Anyone who has ever loved a pet and seen it die or built a business and then seen it be taken over by others or get shut down can attest to the fact. Even those who work their entire lives to get their dream jobs and are informed that they can’t have it, for whatever reason, will experience grief. The purpose of this article is to help you find out ways in which you can deal with your grief, or help others deal with their grief.

Tips On Dealing With Grief
No matter how great the loss, the fact is that life goes on and the faster you get back to it, the better it is. So how do you get back on track?

The very first thing you need to do is to get some company. Don’t try to be alone as that will only serve to heighten the confusion and the anger. It would be best to be with your friends and family at times of loss.
If you are unable to get over the grief you can also consider joining a support group or by talking to a councilor or a therapist. Most people are against going to therapists but the fact is that, sometimes just getting to talk about what you feel can make all the difference.
If you are a religious person then you can even turn to the faith you follow to help you. Adopting and following the rituals prescribed by the religion for grieving can help you feel better too.
The sooner you accept the situation, the faster you can start dealing with what you feel. Sometimes you will act as though nothing has happened and try to carry on as usual. This is not a very advisable thing to do, since not facing what you feel only sets you up for a breakdown later.
There may be times when you will encounter others who will try to tell you how you are feeling or how you should be feeling. Avoid them and also avoid trying to tell yourself how to feel. Remember that if you do happen to laugh a bit, as you remember something, then you are not committing a crime.
Remember that trashing yourself will not help the situation and that is why you must make sure you take care of your health. Don’t stop eating or start gorging on food. Stick to your regular eating habits.
On a more personal level, if you are having difficulty getting over the fact that a special person or thing is gone, then trying to remember the good times that you shared with them. This will help you accept the loss.
Many a times when someone does not know what to do about the pain they feel, they turn to intoxicants to help them subdue their grief. There is only one thing that can be said here, “Do not turn to alcohol or drugs as a solution to grief!”

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