How to Become More Talkative

Some people have the gift of gab. They can talk about anything and everything. Give them any situation or any kind of audience, they can talk their way into people’s hearts and make an impact. These people get noticed very easily and are usually the life of a party. You might have often tried to speak up just like those natural orators, only to chicken out even before trying. Being talkative is definitely something that will catapult you into the limelight and get you noticed in every walk of life. Also, talking and entertaining people around you can be a way of showcasing your intellect. Though, listening is a good skill, yet being tagged as listener can be a little awkward. Even a good listener would want to talk like a conversationalist, at some point or the other. There is a talker in every person, but not everyone is able to use that to his or her benefit. Talking is something that comes naturally, but there are definite ways to get rid of your shyness and become talkative. Check out these tips given below that will surely help you achieve what you aim for.

Tips To Become More Talkative

This first and foremost point that has been emphasized time and again is confidence. You need to think high of yourself and believe in yourself. You need to think you are no less than anybody else in any respect and this will increase your confidence level.
Put a smile on your face every morning and start the day. There are many who will feel happy with your presence around and will come to talk to you automatically. Happiness attracts people and is a sure shot way of meeting new people and making friends.
Talk about anything and everything that you know. You don’t have to be Einstein to strike up an intellectual conversation. Rather, you could share opinions on a particular subject, discuss the latest news or just talk about a funny incident that might have happened in the morning. The more you share, the more trust and familiarity it breeds.
They don’t say ‘laughter is the best medicine’ without a reason! Laugh and smile often and you will yourself be surprised to see the reciprocation you get. Every moment you laugh will give you something to talk about the next day.
Try saying a casual ‘hello’ to everyone at work or college. You might start a casual conversation with someone with just a hello or a good morning. It will make you more comfortable with the idea of opening up and talking more to people.
Once you have hit a conversation, keep going. Don’t be nervous or over-excited and lose track. Try to be upbeat and remain focused. While talking about a certain thing, try finish talking about it and then move on to something else. This way, you keep the audience interested. Talking about ten different things at the same time can confuse your listeners thereby, causing them to lose interest.
Talk slowly and clearly. You need not talk in a fast pace to grab someone’s interest. A slow but absorbing talk can certainly do wonders.
Don’t worry if you have said something silly or incorrect. Just be nice in whatever you say. Correct yourself and keep the conversation going.
It is typical with people who are shy to think too much before they open their mouth. They want to be sure what they say is cool, humorous and appropriate. They never want to hear anything negative about what they just said. This is one of the unreasonable expectations they have, which leads them to overthink every word or sentence they are about to utter. Naturally, when you spend a lot of time pondering about something, you tend to stay quiet. Plus, it is obvious to find some mistake or the other and end-up not saying anything at all.
Another reason is, the way you hold yourself in your eyes. You know that, you are not perfect and believe that others want to listen to someone who is flawless. This, however, is not true. Talkative people are not always perfect; they just go with the flow. The key is not hold to yourself tight, but let it go. Being a perfectionist is not the aim, it is about being spontaneous or natural.
Consider this as gradual process. You cannot turn from shy to talkative overnight. It takes time and effort on your part to become an extrovert. You may or may not have made much progress than yesterday or the day before, but a week later, you are sure to find some difference.
Last but not the least, practice as much as you can. If something does not come naturally, it needs to be achieved through practice. Talk as much as you can. Try to feel comfortable expressing yourself and let the world know what you think. This way you won’t be reluctant to meet new people and make more friends. A lot of doors will open and your life will be much more interesting.

If you intend to seek advice from your friends who are good communicators, you may do so, but remember do not try to imitate them or their style. The above mentioned tips will surely help you a great deal in your pursuit.

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