Motherhood has always been a blessing for women. However, the changing times have ensured that the joy is not unmixed. While, the new age women are as competent as men, the idea of striding away from their successful career, for a full time job of motherhood, puts them in a dilemma. The question which takes the prime focus is the choice, which she has to make—whether she wants to see her child growing up or needs to fulfill the career goals which she has set for herself. While, being a mother is a full time job with its enriching rewards, it is a thankless job too. There are many things which one should consider before deciding to become a stay-at-home mom. There is more to consider than just the loss of a paycheck. You might need to reflect on your personality, your needs post childbirth and of course, your partner’s opinions. Read on to learn more about being a stay-at-home mom and how to enjoy being one.
Becoming A Stay At Home Mother
The idea of being a stay home mom is wholly an individualistic choice and depends from person to person. For some, it is a simple decision but, for others it is one which involves a lot of thinking behind it. The rewards of being a stay-at-home-mom are too many. The feeling is priceless and can never be compensated for anything in life. Watching your child grow and see him/her learn step by step and word by word is certainly a blissful experience for a mother. To be there whenever your child needs you is an overpowering feeling.
Using Time Creatively
You can also indulge yourself in doing things which you longed for. The time at home gives you the opportunity to excel at your skills and relive your hobbies. If you have decided to be a stay home mom, take the decision as a matter of your own choice and not out of compulsion. Be optimistic about it and do not regret your decision later. Sometimes, the choice may lead you to a feeling of identity crisis and increased dependency on your husband. Managing the expenses on a single income may also be a little tedious. Do not succumb to such negativity, and enjoy the experience of watching your child grow. You can go ahead and make your career later in life.
Connect With Other Stay-At-Home Moms
Once you have decided to become a stay-at-home mom you need to gather as many resources and as much information as possible in order to take on your new role. Connect with the other stay-at-home moms in your neighborhood and see what they have to say about being a full-time mother. If you are lucky, you might even have the chance to interact with the mothers who have children of similar age as that of your child.
Dinner Vs. Dancing
Family dinners are one of the most important ‘bonding’ hours in a day. Of course, after 12 hours of playing, running around and cleaning up, you might want to take your hubby and go dancing to ‘detox’ for a while. However, when you have decided to don the role of a stay-at-home mom, you will have to understand that a hearty family dinner is one of the essential keys to proper bonding between parents and children, as proven by recent studies. Instead of getting your nanny to cook a basic Mac ‘N’ Cheese for your kids, why not devote just an extra hour or two to cook your children’s favorite meals or take them out to their favorite joint?
Handling children might be a herculean task, but only if you are making it difficult for yourself. Lighten up. You will have to understand that, children are loads of fun to be around, if you can properly handle them. Don’t allow yourself to get bogged down by the amount of work you have to do to manage them. In fact, watch them have fun and join in when you are free! This way you will have a proper bonding with your children and you will also realize that you are becoming a better mother.
Strike A Balance
Although, stay-at-home mothers like to think otherwise, they are not superwomen. Stop trying to do a zillion things in the limited hours you have in a day. Outline the most important tasks for the day and devote the rest of the time to your kids and family. It is very achievable and can also help you de-stress. By allowing yourself to do only a couple of important chores in a day, you are in fact, striking a balance with your free time as a stay-at-home mom, which is very crucial. After all, what is the point of being a stay-at-home mother if you cannot devote some time off your hectic schedule for your tiny tots?
In final terms, if you have decided to be a stay-at-home mom, be proud of what you are doing because, it is the most satisfying feeling. Remember to keep in touch with your friends, especially if they are also enjoying their motherhood the way you are doing. Enjoy the moment spent with your child and make the quality of your life better. Revel in your decision and work for a better future of your kid and your family. Just remember that, you are sacrificing your career for your own satisfaction and not for your kids.