Taking Care Of Aging Parents

They have taken care of you all their life. They have answered your million questions, without getting irritated. They have given even their own blankets to you, when you felt cold. They have worn old cloths, so you could buy new ones. They never went for holidays, so you could go with your friends. They have made countless sacrifices to provide you with all the facilities, which you always took for granted. Now your parents have grown old and are unable to take care of themselves. So what should you do? Send them to an old-age home, where they would be left to fend for themselves? Or, like the children of “Baghban” movie, separate them and force them to spend their life in the closed proximity of four walls? Today, most of the people are so busy in their life that they neither have time nor inclination to spend some time with their aging parents. They would rather spend their hours playing bridge with their so-called friends, rather than sit with their parents for a few minutes. Though harsh, this is the truth! Still, there are some people who want to take care of their parents in their old age, who consider the responsibility to be an honor and privilege. If you are one of them, read on to explore some tips on taking care of your aging parents.

 

 

If your parents don’t live with you and you want to bring them to your place, first talk to them about what they want. They may have some emotional attachments to the house and may be reluctant to move out of it. Talk to them and if they are not interested to move out, you can move in with them. You can also hire a caretaker, if the second option is not feasible. If they are willing to move into your house, then you may need to make some changes according to your parents’ need. So before you make any decision, talk to your family and your parents about the same.

 

When your parents move in with you, you need to adjust according to them. Listening to music in loud voice, throwing regular late night parties and other such activities must be restricted, though not stopped altogether. Keep in mind that you will need to alter your lifestyle according to them, at least a bit. So before you plan their move into your house, prepare yourself psychologically.

 

You have welcomed your parents in your home. Now, you need to provide them with their own space. Just because you parents have aged, it doesn’t mean they have lost their sense of privacy and space. Provide them with their own room and assist them only when they want you to.

 

Give your aging parents their own space and respect them. Instead of making decisions for them, ask them what they want. In addition, when you are making some decisions in your own life, ask for their advice and guidance. It will make them feel connected and important in your life.

 

If money is not a constraint for you, then give your parents a certain amount of money every month. They are your parents and they may not like the idea of asking money whenever they want. Even if you don’t earn much, give a small part of your income to your parents. It will give them financial independence.

 

Take out time to spend with your aging parents. Even if you are busy, take out a few minutes at the dinner table or before going to classes. You can even join yoga classes together or go for a long walk. Even a stroll in the park together will help you bond. Have chats about subjects of common interests and keep in touch.