Marriages are made in heaven while divorces happen on earth. When you finally realize that you were both not meant for each other, you call your marriage a day. It is the time when two people who said ‘I do’ in the presence of their friends and family all of a sudden become strangers and will be prefixed with the ‘ex’ tag before the name of their relationship. Though to get a divorce legally is easy, the wounds that it leaves back take quite a time to get healed. Men are the one who get adversely affected by a divorce, as most often they don’t know how to channelize their frustrations in a positive way. In order to save his emotions from showing he warily adorns the armor of aggression and at many a times you will be the one to bear the brunt of it. He might not remain the same man that you have known for years. When you are all set to kick-off a new beginning will you be confronted by a new ‘angry (young) man’ who calls himself your ‘ex-husband’. Emotions are always involuntary and you should never ignore them and know to deal with them. Given here are some ways by which you can get through this emotional hurdle.
Tips To Deal With An Angry Ex-Husband
- The first thing that you need to realize is that he is no more your husband and you don’t have any relationship with him anymore. So deal with him accordingly. Divorce is like the death of a marriage and it takes some time to get out of it. It is very common for the ex-husband to still get angry with his ex wife. The first thing you need to do is like stop considering yourself as an emotional punching bag so that he can gnash his teeth at you anytime he loses his temper.
- Be brave enough to face him and make it a point that you set boundaries for your ex-husband. It is not that he can barge in on anytime into your home and show his anger towards you. You should make it a point that you give him the last preference, like answering his calls only once a week, meeting him once a month only if necessary. If you have moved on with your life and have remarried then play safe by ignoring him.
- If he is going out of the limits, you can take him along to a therapist. A therapist is not like the counselor whom you would have met before getting a divorce. He can find a tangible viewpoint on how both of you can reduce the anger that is raging in you both after your marriage ended.
- Try talking to him and find out what exactly provokes him to be angry with you. Sometimes he may blame himself for ending up the marriage or he might be feeling insecure of been ditched by his wife. A feeling of dejection must have paved way for his act of aggression. If you can find the reason why he is always angry as a bull, you can talk the matter over and help him out of it.
- It is not that you can point out only the flaws of your husband after your marriage ended. There are chances of you getting a new man in your life as well, which can add on to his woes. So it is always better to keep the matter under wrap at least for the time being. You should never take a risk of flaunting about your new relationship to your ex husband and add more oil to the fire.
- If you have children together, you can deal the matter relating to them. Children are the only possessions that the divorcees would love to share with each other. You should make him realize that his emotional outburst on their mother can harm their relationship with him.