It’s never too rosy for the newlyweds. Just like how a ten month old to a fifteen year old married couple endures various hardships during their tenure, newlyweds too face a great deal of problems. Disagreements and constant squabbles are common even two days post the wedding. Entering the institution of marriage is quite a massive step and when it finally sinks into the minds of the newlyweds, anxiety starts to kick in. Moreover, it is advisable that newlyweds settle their issues at the start rather than allow resentment to accumulate over a period of twenty to thirty years. As newlyweds, feuds as petty as “Why didn’t you shut down my laptop” or “I told we should’ve taken the right!” spark off and gradually turn more intense. However, there is no reason to panic! Tiffs among newlyweds are normal as it takes time to adapt to each other’s lifestyle! Finances, the in-laws and sex are what set a marriage apart from a steady relationship. Here a few valuable tips for all the newlyweds.
Tips For Newlyweds
The make-up at your wedding sure made you look pretty, but it certainly won’t help you survive your marriage. What you will indeed need is an attitude makeover. This doesn’t mean you have to completely transform your inner identity. Instead, you need to learn to consider the comfort and joy of your new partner. You two are a team now and no team succeeds when one player’s motives are selfish. Give and take! Sail through the beautiful years ahead of you with a light and positive attitude. Think of the wellbeing of your spouse and bear all the struggles with a grin!
Keep The Romance Afloat!
Come thunder, come storm, by no means should you let the love boat sink! Let it float, let it float! The most reliable way to rekindle the flames of romance is to thrive on sexual intimacy. Experiment with different positions and techniques. Go ahead, it’s your bed! Sex can be the solution to almost every problem and calm down one’s nerves. It’s a great outlet to vent your frustrations. Never deprive your partner of sex, for he/she may hop into somebody else’s bed and worsen the situation! Sail the love boat as you host romantic candlelight dinners and venture out on dreamy holidays.
Patience & Communication
We are all susceptible to annoyance, but we ought to remember that patience is the mother of all virtues. Yes, you might have a lot on your plate! However, is it too much to spare twenty minutes for somebody you’ve pledged to live the rest of your life with? Please your spouse by solving his/her dilemma with heavy bouts of patience and never let your irritable nature succumb to the urge to yell or launch an attack against your spouse. Moreover, simple one-to-one-communication can do wonders. Don’t let relationship problems sleep and grow into a giant monster of animosity. Talk to each other and express the feelings that you’ve been hiding. It is essential that you both listen to your partner than your own voice. Wait for a response soon after you’re done with the babble. Share expectations on a regular basis!
Many a times, money is the root of troubles. However, we can’t deny that we all need it to live in the crazy thing called life. Money creates permanent cracks in the foundation of a marriage. It, sometimes, makes either of the spouse feel too robbed or deprived! It is, thus, imperative that couples discuss financial statuses beforehand and extrapolate future plans. Assign roles to one another so that you can figure out what needs to be handled by whom. Even if finances are not steep, love will keep the marriage alive! Budget your expenses and aim higher! Work as a team!
Have Fun Together!
Work may wear you out, but you do need to have some fun and dissolve the bitter aftertaste of a monotonous week. Get out and have some fun. Do not leave your spouse out of the equation. Relive the fun moments before the wedding days. Yes, married life is not always a bed of roses, but if you take the initiative and look past the thorns, you will be pleasantly surprised!
After a lavish wedding and the best wines, the last thing you want is to get into a row with your spouse. Hope this article helps you circumvent the rubble and come out victorious!