Most of the times, when we look at ourselves in the mirror, we see ourselves not for what we are, but what we ought to be. However, the decision of ‘what we ought to be’ is not decided by the standards we set for ourselves, but by the straitjacket, the society carelessly throws us into. We long to break free from all such pretentions, yet, when given the opportunity to do the same, fall right back into the very trap. Many of us do not like to see ourselves in the mirror at all, afraid of what we might see ourselves as – since we tend to define ‘successes and ‘failure’ in extremely conventional ways. No wonder most of us never feel good about ourselves. Nevertheless, there are some simple rules that you can follow if you wish to feel good about yourself. Here’s how to bring in the ‘feel good’ factor about yourself.
Easy Ways To Feel Good About Yourself
Here’s what you must do to feel good about yourself:
Life’s No Enemy
Most of us often feel that everyone on this earth, or at the very least, some people are out to get us. If you are constantly suspicious of others' motives and keep believing that they have some hidden agenda that involves hurting you, you'll keep people at arm's length and never make new friends or improve the friendships you already have. For the person who's trapped in his or her own shell of negativity, the result is that they make any excuse to not go out in the world with a positive outlook. Meeting people would require them to be friendly, which they consider to be not worth taking the pain. To inculcate a more positive outlook on life you need to understand that most people are way too busy managing their own lives to take the pains to hurt you. Being friends is far more pleasant than being enemies so why would they want to put so much energy into something they'd have nothing to gain from?
The ‘Ha! Ha!’ Is On Me
A good sense of humor is more important than being what most people consider "beautiful" in the conventional sense. “Your sense of humour is wonderful”, is not a compliment that people give anyone, while “You are pretty or good looking” is a compliment that is as carelessly thrown around as any pleasantry. Having a sense of humor can make it easier to be friendly even with strangers and makes tough situations less stressful. Most people appreciate a sense of humor more anyway. Also, humor has the potential to last far longer than physical traits. The only problem with being too humorous is that not everyone will have the same sense of humor as you and can get offended. Therefore, for this reason, it is best if you try to feel out the people around you before you start joking around. Likewise, there may be situation where making light of the situation could actually prove to be rather inappropriate.
Green Isn’t Good
Though most of us might believe that life will improve once we've bought a bigger house, had a baby, been on a foreign holiday or re-decorated the living room, much to our chagrin, we find that it hasn’t. What we refuse to acknowledge is that there is always something that will make you feel better than you are right now. The problem with the desire to have what others have, which you believe you too have a right to possess is that those wishes never diminish. No matter how much you may try to match up to the lifestyle of someone else, there will always be something else that would fall short. Don't fall for it! If you get the things, you'd like to have, then good for you - just don't let them hinder your chance of happiness along the way. Look around you and appreciate the things you do have instead of focusing on those you don't. Remember the talisman Gandhi ji gave, “Whenever you are in doubt, or when the self becomes too much with you, apply the following test. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen, and ask yourself, if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words, will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away.” No matter how little you think you have, there are people not far from you who are far worse off than you are!