How To Teach A Child To Comply With Directions

Parents have a very challenging job, when it comes to raising their children as per the codes of the society. They need to instill the right manners and attitude in their children. In fact, they are the responsible for molding the life of their children. At the first outset, the children should be taught to comply with their parents’ directions. Only when they learn to oblige their parents, they can find their way in life. It is the responsibility of the parents to make their children obey their instructions. They should allot small tasks for their kids and see that they do them with no complains and stubbornness. In case you are finding it difficult to achieve this, we are at your service. Read on to get some helpful tips on how to teach children to comply with directions.

Teaching Your Children To Obey Instructions

Before laying down the instructions for your child, think again, as to whether the instructions are absolutely necessary. In case they can be avoided, it is better to ignore them altogether. Otherwise, present them as a request to your child and you will see him/ her readily doing it for you.
There may be cases when it is necessary to be strict with your child and make him/her follow your instructions. In such circumstances, always take care to put your instructions in a simple and clear manner. Be polite, but firm while giving the instructions.
There is no harm in adding “please” to your statement, rather than making it sound like a blunt command. Children are more stubborn in not following commands. You can put your instruction as “please bring me a glass of water”, rather than rudely saying, “get me a glass of water right now”.
Your child may not be able to understand the instruction in the very first go. In this case, you need to explain the same to him/her and clarify all his/her doubts. At the end, you can ask him/her to repeat the instructions and make sure that he/she got it right.
Do not give very challenging and/ or tiring job to your kid. Remember that he/she is just a child and has certain limitations. Allot him with instructions which are proper to his/her age.
Help your child wherever he/she feels stuck up. You should be ready to render a helping hand that will boost his/her confidence. The child will feel a sense of security by your small acts of help.
If possible, make a game out of the work that you want your child to do. Set your instructions in a rhythmic pattern and applaud your child every time he/she successfully does a task.
Reward your child regularly for his work. This will inspire him/her to take up more of your instructions, in expectance of further rewards. The rewards need not be very expensive. It can be anything like a pencil, a set of crayons, a pudding, a small toy or any other thing that you child would love to have. You can even make him/her happy by assuring to play with him/her in the evening.
Make your child feel big. Flatter your child by saying that he/she has done such a great task for you. Express your gratitude to your child and give him/her a touching hug or kiss.
In worst cases, if your child totally refuses to comply with your instructions, implement a punishment on him/her, which goes in term with the task. For example, a child who does not put his crayons properly into its cover will not get the drawing sheet.
If your child is still unwilling to comply and shows aggressive behavior, you need to consult a professional. There is a possibility of his/her being a defiant child, who needs proper handling to make him/her comply with instructions.

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