Becoming sociable and friendly is the need of the hour. If you are one of those who are hesitant to talk to others, know that you need to become social. Explore tips on how to become more social.

How To Become More Social

To be social or not depends on oneself. After all, only humans have the facility to choose and even overwrite their social instincts. Thus, it rightly explains that while we have party animals at one end, there are also recluses who voluntarily shun the society. But recluses are one of a kind and they are exceptions, rather than the rule. As for most of us, company and society are a part of life. No one likes to be confined inside the four walls. People, in general, like to meet, greet and laugh along with each other. There are some people who have the ability to get along with anyone and everyone. They have a magical personality to make anyone their friend. For such people, no one is a stranger and it seems like people love to flock to them like bees flock to honey. These people are known as extroverts. However, a sharp contrast to such gregarious folks is the presence of introverts in society. These are those who are simply reluctant to approach people. They seem to be strangers to even their own shadows. For such shy people, conversation is a forgotten or yet to be learned art. They take a long time to come out of their shell. However, this does not mean that they do not love to chat or socialize. They do, but the trouble is that they do not possess the social skills required to bond with others. As such, they think of themselves as inferior and hence, get withdrawn. For such people, it is very necessary that they learn the art of socializing early, so that they can also reap the benefits of society. Given below in the article are various tips on becoming more social.
 
Becoming Social
  • Perhaps the best way to become more sociable is to show to people that you are friendly and ready to welcome them. And the best way you can do this is by smiling. If you are one of those somber-looking individuals who find it hard to keep up a smile, then it is advisable to think of anything that is funny, so that the smile reflects from your eyes. This will make the smile more sincere. Once you start smiling at people, you will feel more connected to them.
  • When you meet people, establish eye contact with them. This you can do so by believing in yourself. Eye contact would not only raise your self confidence, but also help you mingle with other freely.  
  • Whenever possible, talk to others around you. This you can do while you are out for shopping to the market place or mall or any other crowded place. Try to talk to strangers. Start off with simple things like asking for the time or the address. The more you do these small things, the more comfortable you will become and later, you can engage in more talk.
  • If you are reluctant to approach others, then try to strike a conversation with kids and the elderly first. They are the easiest people that you can talk to. Striking a healthy and successful conversation with them would give a boost to your confidence and social skills. With time, you would be able to talk to people of your age as well, with the same level of confidence and self belief.
  • The best way that you can start conversing with others is to empathize with them. No one likes a self-centered person. Ask them how they are feeling and what their interests are so that they also become more open.
  • The least of what you are expected to do while you are trying to become social is to refuse invitations. If your neighbors and friends invite you, make sure you accept the invitation always, lest something urgent turns up. In this way, you will have more time to interact with them and can also meet a host of other people. However, this does not mean you just attend parties and get-togethers. You should also throw a party once in a while and invite them so that they know that you treasure their company. 
  • Don’t lock up yourself in your room if you don’t know many people around you. Go for a walk, sit in a park, spread your smile around, and observe people and you will find that many people are talking to you.
  • Display a positive outlook. People love interacting to someone who wears a smile than a frown. Also, one who is happy and has a cheerful disposition is likely to attract more people. Once you get comfortable talking to others, bring in fun and frolic into your conversations. After all, who would like to talk to someone who is a big bore? Remember, a bored expression will never bring you the comfort of company.

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