You have a great social life; your friends adore you; your work speaks for itself and you have a loving spouse. Even though you and your spouse have an active social life, it does not seem to help when it comes to forming an intimate bonding. Somehow, even though both of you seem to love each other a lot and respect each other’s feelings, something is seriously lacking when it comes to physical closeness. It may be due to sexual inhibition in one of you. A sexual inhibition may be defined as having a conservative attitude or fear of sex or certain sexual practices.
The causes for sexual inhibitions may range from various psychological and physiological aspects. The most common causes that have been recognized are sexual myths, suppression of sexual behavior in childhood, conservative society and environment, ignorance and inconsistency between the partners. This leads to rigid views and hesitation to open up to each other. The ultimate result is poor performance in the bedroom and a widening gap between the partners. However, the good news is that these sexual inhibitions are easy to lose and with a little effort and support from both the partners, things can be improved to a great extent.
Tips to Overcome Sexual Inhibitions
- First and foremost, don’t force your partner to do what you want. This will create unnecessary pressure and your partner might shut down completely. This will lead to further tensions between the two of you. Patience is the main key to overcome this problem.
- Try to focus on other things that you enjoy doing together such as adventure sports, cooking his/her favorite meal, watching a drive-in movie together or just spending time with each other, under the night sky on the beach. Talk romantic stuff and shower each other with compliments. Remind why you love him/her so much. Get close and re-bond again.
- Try to collect information regarding your problem or speak about it to a doctor. You can get some of the best advices and quick solutions to solve your problem from a qualified individual. Doctors and therapists surely make these things disappear fast and make sure your marriage doesn’t suffer.
- You can ask your spouse to initiate sexual intimacy till the time you are trying to sort out the problem. This way, your spouse will take charge of making you feel better and you will also get an idea as to how to go about shuffling things to make it better for both of you.
- Don’t feel guilty about anything. You should realize this world is not perfect. Don’t be sorry for anything and keep reminding yourself that you are capable of improving and overcoming hurdles. Once you start feeling good about yourself, you will see your problems melting away.
