Those were the days when Roxette crooned “It must’ve been love.” It seems like people of her generation always knew when it was true love and when it was not while we, the products of this century, fumble. We are the ‘here-today-gone-tomorrow’ generation that keeps falling in and out of love every few days and will do anything but ask our ownselves as to whether we are really in love or not. We ‘fall in love’ like falling anywhere, and soon get up, dust our clothes, and walk away, like it never happened. In such a situation, it is very difficult to say whether what you experienced a week ago was true love or not. That is because we do not ask ourselves some important questions that will determine whether we are really in love or not. Here are some of the questions that will determine the extent of love that we feel for a person.
Ways To Know If It Is True Love
Here are some questions that, if answered in the affirmative, will prove that your love for the significant other is true:
Question No 1
We all know that true love means putting another person’s need before your own; one cannot be selfish in love or expect to have things their own way all the time. Therefore, you need to ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice everything that you have built for yourself so that your significant other could be happy. For example, if your partner has the chance to get a wonderful job in another city, are you willing to put everything you have at stake to make this shift easy for him or her or would you expect your partner to prioritize you at the cost of his or her career? While blind agreement to any difference of opinion is unrealistic and unreasonable, a thoughtful discussion of what is better for each of you individually as well as both of you as a couple needs to take place.
Question No 2
The other question of importance is whether the attractions you feel for the person is restricted to the physical aspect of the relationship or are you seriously, genuinely attracted to the person at a deeper level? Do you enjoy talking to the person or listening to the person as well. Both are important to a mature relationship, but if you find yourself fixated on physical appearance, attracted to your mate because of face, figure, or form, you may be taking a superficial look at your loved one. On the other hand, you don't want to be taken in by flattery or false statements. If your significant other is all talk and no action, that can be a warning sign to drop the relationship before you end up with one broken promise after another. A balance of physical and mental, even intellectual, attraction is the sign of healthy romantic relationship.
Question No 3
Many couples back out when they find out that they need to wait till their significant others are settled well; this is not a sign of true love. So, the next question to be asked is – are you willing to wait to make the relationship work? It goes both ways, too. Are you willing to wait on your partner to get more serious when he or she is ready, or are you demanding more interaction now? Can you wait to marry until the other person gains a sound foothold in their career or are you pushing too much for marriage first? Patience is an important virtue associated with successful, long-term relationships.
Question No 4
We all value friendships more because we know that loved ones may break hearts but friends can heal a broken heart too. Thus, the next question is, are you friends? Do you laugh together? Do you enjoy similar activities? Do you have the habit of sharing each other with friends and family? Or, do you expect your partners to spend all free time with you exclusively?