Your mother tries to control all your acts. She tries to dictate even the smallest acts for you. Ok. Here are some tips which would come handy.

 

Your mother has looked after you and guided you in life. Express your gratitude to her for whatever she has done for you. Then explain the problems cropping between both of you. Discuss with her how both of you can deal with the problems.

 

Openly appreciate her for the fact that she cares so much about you. Think how much you would miss her in absence. After all, she loves you so much and that is why, sometimes she becomes overbearing.

 

If the mother insists on knowing something from you which you don’t want to share, tell her politely but strongly that you love her, but are not able to share every aspect of your life with her. Whenever your mother starts meddling, try to change the subject of conversation.

 

Best way to deal with her is to mark boundaries. Draw the contours of your live your mother should not cross. Choose which aspects of your life you won't share with your mother. If she invades them, remind her.

 

If you hesitate to verbally convey your decision to her, write a letter. Explain how you would like the relationship to evolve. Tell her that if she continues interfering, your relationship with her would suffer.

 

Don’t look your mother for every solution. Try to seek approval from yourself instead of from your mother or anyone else. If you have the self-confidence, your mother's controlling tendencies won't get overbearing.

 

An overbearing mother could try to trap her child in guilt-trap. Escape it. Why should you feel guilty for living your own life?

 

If a controlling mother calls you and for some reason, you have been unable to answer her, call back as soon as possible. Anger of an overbearing mother gets fuelled, if she feels her child is ignoring her.

 

You mother must have some reasons for exercising over-control. Dig into those reasons and find out why she is so. You must realize that you would never be able to change her. So don’t attempt to change her. Just learn how to deal with her.