In the eyes of a narcissist, only ‘the self’ comes first, nothing else matters. Read your way through this article to dig out tips on dealing with a narcissist.
A narcissist in your life can at times be considered a nail in your coffin! Well, not really. It all depends on the way you look at it. Irrespective of the actions and words of the narcissist in your life, ultimately it’s you who makes it tough for yourself. This is mostly because narcissists are generally difficult people who through their maniacal self obsession can exercise vice-like grips over the lives of all almost everyone they meet and know. By definition, a narcissist is an individual who has an ‘inordinate fascination with oneself’ or ‘excessive self-love’. A normal individual transmogrifies him or herself into a narcissist when their levels of obsession with themselves reaching dizzy heights. This is exactly when it can be potently difficult for the people who have the misfortune of putting up with a person’s narcissism. Go ahead and read on to establish familiarity with four of the best ways to deal with a narcissist.
Dealing With A Narcissist
You obviously do know that a narcissist is a self centered individual. For a narcissist, nothing else matters than his or her needs. It’s always about what he or she wants. However, this does not mean that a narcissist is a selfish or an evil person. It only means that a narcissist is absolutely unaware of the inconveniences his or her narcissism is causing to the people around. A narcissist is someone who is incapable of sympathizing and empathizing. In other words, a narcissist cannot really show pity on another or place him or herself in another’s shoes. So, as far as you are concerned, the best way to deal with a narcissist is to avoid or stay away from him/her. However, don’t hate on narcissists, for everything they say and do is mostly always unintentional, in most cases at least.
Confront (If You Have To)
Sometimes, as much as you try to avoid a narcissist, he or she may just miss the clue. The more you try to avoid them, the more you’ll notice that they are always around you. This is when you will have to quit shying away and take up matters in your hand. Look a narcissist in the eye and tell him or her that you are fed up with having to deal with their narcissism. However, you don’t need to be too rude. Diplomacy and choosing the right words when you confront a narcissist is what you should be looking at. There really are no two ways about it and this is mostly because a narcissist can easily take offense at what you say. So, make it a point to peacefully go about your confronting.
Stay Guilt Free
A narcissist is as good as an expert at putting people down. So, you will have to be careful to not let a narcissist get to you or feel guilty about the opinions they have about you. It may not be easy, especially when dealing with in-your-face narcissists, but remember, you will have to do what you have to do to make it past their inflated egos and morbid opinions.
Create An Outlet
Coping with a narcissist can get to even the toughest of personalities, because narcissists are just the kind of people who can get to almost anyone. So, if it’s difficult for you to avoid and confront a narcissist, you can always vent your frustrations out to a person you know cares for you. Just make sure the person you are confiding in is not a colleague or someone who knows the narcissist in question. Venting out your frustrations in all probability may not help change the narcissist who is getting to you. However, it sure will help you feel a lot better!
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