The good news: you feel you have found the love of your life. He is friendly, responsible, mature, absolutely fun-loving and dotes on you. He is everything you ever dreamed for in a man and yourself are pleasantly surprised. Now, comes the bad news: he is married. Yes, that’s right; he has a wife and kids and is a family man. Usually, if a friend or anyone we know is dating a married man, we react shockingly upon hearing the news.
Do You Think it is Worth…
The woman who is dating a married man is usually ignored by her family and friends aren’t all that supportive. In our society, dating married men is considered to be adultery and even a sin. There is a lot of disgrace attached to this. Think about it, the woman is actually ruining a family. Even the person you are dating will always consider you after his wife & kids and sideline you, thus making you feel lonely most of the times. You wouldn’t want your ‘soul-mate’ to do that, would you? Also, when you are dating, you would have to be extra careful about meeting up outside so as not to be spotted by someone you know.
The Emotional Edge
The biggest challenge is controlling emotions. Most of them, trust me, will be negative emotions regarding this whole relationship. These emotions will affect everyone close to you, adversely. Your friends will turn away, your family might just shun you, his family will definitely hate you and in the end, you will start think negative about yourself. On top of it all, you can never be clear about the intentions of the man. If he dumped his wife and kids for you, he can do the same thing with you. Once the guilt of destroying his family life settles on him, you will be made to feel low and will lose self-respect. For all that you know, he might leave citing you as the reason for the break-up of his family.
Logic is the Keyword
Think about this whole relationship from a logical point of view. It may be a bit difficult but try. A relationship with a married man is only going to give you a few exciting moments and a long period of guilt, heartbreak and low self-esteem. Most married men, who are bored of the daily monotonous routine, venture out for a little excitement. They never ever think of having a relationship at the cost of their family. But they reach a stage in life when they cannot decide which side of the fence they want to stay in.
If they decide to go back to their family, you are doomed. If they reluctantly agree to stay with you, don’t expect your life to be a bed of roses. You may have a fall-out sooner than you think due to constant comparisons, cribbing and blaming. At the end of the day, it is just not worth it. There are lots of single men out there who are waiting for their soul mate. All you need to do is go and find him! Don’t waste precious moments of your life on someone who may leave you, sooner or later, with a bitter taste in mouth.